What steps can I take to make sure my mother isn't spying on me remotely?
I'll try to make this as short and informative as possible, but there's a lot of context. My mother is and has always been controlling and paranoid. Now I'm a paranoid adult as a result. When I was younger and still lived at home, she assured me that every keystroke I made on my computer was logged and saved via some remote software or something(??), so she could see every site I accessed, every word I typed. At the time, there was no proof that her claims were true (she's not super tech savvy, but my stepdad was and probably could set that up), though she did other things to "monitor" me, like going through my phone and sniffing out my diary like a bloodhound.
Now, I live over 7000 miles away from her and felt pretty certain that I was out of her reach. However, recently my estranged sister warned me that our mother apparently has access to my Facebook "and all of my passwords." My sister is a pathological liar, so I kind of wrote it off...until this past week. I signed up for something online (via a computer I've bought since moving out, but using my usual email). I didn't think much of it, until later in the evening when my mom texted me asking about that thing I'd signed up for, and if I'd done that yet. For what it's worth, it was related to the upcoming US election so it is topical, but still. The timing was very unsettling to me. Now I'm convinced that she's still spying on me somehow.
Since then, I've changed my passwords for Google/gmail, Facebook, my bank, and other major sites. I did all of this via my newer computer that she's never had access to, rather than from my main home PC (that I bought when I lived with her). I also saw on Google that an LG phone had been attached to my account, and had last been used some 120 days ago from my home country. This absolutely was not me, since I haven't been back to the US in over 400 days.
I'm really paranoid she's still spying on me. Even now, I'm typing this on my phone rather than my home PC, JUST in case she can see all of this. I don't even really know for sure that she's spying on me. But that being said, are there any more precautions I can take to protect myself on the off chance that she is? Is there anything I can do on my home PC to be sure there's no spy software hidden in it somewhere? Please help!
Also, I want to be clear, I do love my mother, but she's paranoid and overbearing. I love her but I need to love her at a healthy distance :/
submitted by hitoribocchan
Why Activision sucks as a company
I will start by saying I enjoy the game immensely, even with the bugs and clearly allowable hacking (go to war zone a few times, you'll see). Its the best game I have played and before now worth every dime I spent on it.
To say I dislike Activision's customer relationship would be a vast understatement.
Around 3 weeks ago, due to lack of adequate security and MFA, my account was stolen by a worthless human being and sold for cash. I had 24 days or so in game, close to $300 in purchased items, and a few Obsidian guns. I have tried to contact support probably close to 20 times using various methods. I have tried over Twitter DM, Facebook, email (after it became an option), text (after it became an option), and chat (when it worked and wasn't full of other gamers). I have talked to 7 different people in support, one was even a supervisor of support (he emailed me one time and never again). None of these methods have resulted in anything more than the standard "we have escalated it". I have surprising maintained composure in each chat and not dropped 1 F-bomb or called them one of the many names that come to mind.
Activision sucks because:
- Your account is NEVER truly secure. No matter how secure you make the password and no matter if you have MFA on whatever platform you use, you account is NOT SECURE. If someone wants to brute force it, they can. My password was over 12 characters long with a mix of upper, lower, numeric, and special characters. I write software as a day job, this is not something new.
- Activision lacks a online standardized MFA. Every other game that I have played has at least an optional MFA protection option (including Battle.net, an Activision product). This account does NOT.
- Activision does not have an anti-cheat mechanism. Every other Battler Royale or PVP game I have played has some official anti-cheat mechanism in play (battle eye or easy anti cheat come to mind). The whole players reporting players is an antic to help you sleep better "yeah I got that cheater, I reported him".
- No defined user account restoration process. Once your account is taken if you don't have a popular Social Media or Content Creator channel, you won't see it for weeks, maybe months, if at all. I have seen a few other Content Creators lose their account and had it back in a week, mine's been gone for 3 with no end in sight. Others on Reddit have gone longer.
- Activision's "support" people are purely scribes. They are really just there to help you write down what happened and forward it along. They will pass you an empathetic or sympathetic "sorry". They might be able to help you reinstall your game, or maybe find some online material, but anything beyond that is not going to happen.
- Account change notifications do NOT exist. When your account changes they provide no mechanism to inform you. You're dealing with buying and selling currency. Think about your bank or your credit card. If you so much as fat finger a challenge and password you get an email saying these things were done, if not you contact us immediately. Don't believe me, change your password or email and see if you get an email notifying you.
- Feedback is an afterthought. I often get the notice, "You will be receiving a satisfaction survey shortly" - 5 chats, 1 survey.
- There is no live number (even though its called out in their EULA). You can try to call and talk to someone the same way you would with most anything else. You won't find a number that gets you to a human being. It will route you back to the web site where you will wait, get further frustrated, and get no further.
I will continue to try to get my account back because I am a man of principles. I don't have high hopes and writing thorough posts like this help me vent a bit. Heed my warning before spending a dime or making it your favorite pastime, unless all or most of the things outlined in bold above are addressed, you could be in for a bad time. It gets further compounded watching your friends pass you by coupled with new DLC and launches are announced.
submitted by 5SecondRush