messenger active status
ok. So i have this insecurity problem for checking the activity status of my friends on messenger.
But recently i noticed something. When I checked this person's messenger status it showed that he wasn't online for a while (15m/50m/1h). But then when I opened messenger again after 10-15m, without this time to open our chat, it showed that he was online 3-6m ago.
Does anyone know why is this happening? Is he getting a notification or something?
submitted by scrambled_life101
My gf (24f) of 1,5 years is mad over my (24m) messenger activity
so today I was casually chatting with my gf over messenger when friend asked if I wanna watch our current favourite show. I obviously agreed and we tuned into it. I left her last message unseen so I can focus on watching now and respond properly later. Unfortunately, I didn't put my phone far enough and I've seen another person texing me. Text said "check our group chat" and some followup that made me think its urgent. So I've checked, it wasn't at all. I didn't even bother to respond, just saw it and put phone away again.
The thing is, my gf is also on this group chat.
After the show I look again and gf texted me "ehh, goodnight" with a kiss emoji. "ehh". I tried to play it cool and responded "whoa, so soon?", and she was like "yeah. Its not like it makes any difference since you don't even respond to my texts."
And then the shit went down. She was mad because for her it is unacceptable that I check any other chat without simultaneously responding to her. She didn't care that I've only seen it and turned off. She didn't care that I watched the show and wasn't watching alone (so sitting in the phone would be not only distracting but also rude). She also didn't care that I honestly thought that something important is going on and it requires my immidiate attention, and otherwise I wouldn't bother checking anything till the end of the show.
She stated that she should be my priority and its off that I go on mg and do anything without responding to her. Or watch the show without responding. She felt really hurt by this situation and no explanation could possibly change it. Even after I apologised she kept going on and on about how that shouldn't have happened and I obviously have problems with my priorities.
IMO she is really overreacting. All I did was checking something I thought was important, and waiting till the end of the show with responding to anyone. I can see how it might have been a little odd, but this? Expressing how hurt and mistreated she feels over and over again? Thats a bit too much for what have happened.
What do you guys and gals think?
tl;dr: I've checked group chat without simultaneously checking & responding to my gf on private chat. She went mad over it.
submitted by ExecutorAndree